There are some of you right now looking at that the title of this article and have a lot to say, hence this article was specifically written for you. Some of the best words any person said are written in the title for today’s lesson. “Sometimes you got to shut-up and follow” she said. These words has helped many a time in various relationships and there is no doubt these words will help you in your relationship now.
It is easy to want to be in control or just want to always help your partner whenever you can. In a relationship your opinion should matter just as much as your partner’s but we don’t know every stinking thing. Let’s set some parameters to make this wisdom clearer.
There is a difference between someone that always have something to say and someone that wants to help with genuine advice whenever they can. The first example deals in control and wanting to exert some sort of expertise to show off something that nobody really cares about. The latter deals with a strong personality, a person wanting to be there for their partner to help their relationship any way possible as a good companion is supposed to. Nobody should be degraded for the characteristics they possess but sometimes you must understand your partner may know more about certain subjects than you do.
Trust is built on the back of faith personified. It does not come magically and to put total trust in your partner to see you both through times of uncertainty is a lot to ask of anyone. It is hard to let go of doubt, trouble and fear when you feel helpless or inadequate to add in more than two cents when the time comes but sometimes you have to rely on your partner unconditionally. This is where true love comes into play.
Now, for those of you that deal in the control factor, be told that you are trying to talk your way into something that does not exist. Dominant personalities will always find some sort of submissive personality but no matter what side of the coin you find yourself on, you still don’t know everything. So, just because you talk a lot don’t mean you know that much at every turn in your relationship. Relax and let your partner handle some things that you cannot. Just because your partner can bring in some bread every now and then doesn’t make you any less a breadwinner. As stated before, it is all about control in this case and trust that sometimes(not all the time) the more control you give up the better off you will be.