Sunday’s service at Family Victory Fellowship (FVF), a Non-denominational church in Southfield, MI, was not ‘church as usual.’ A panel of 6 ministers, with a combined total of 64 years in ministry, fielded questions before a live audience, and offered solutions to some of life’s most challenging situations. Moderator, Dr. Vicky Spring Love, author, “Stop Robbing Peter to Pay Paul”, guided the panel in the “Conversation.” Several questions were asked, and here are some answers from the panel members.
Conversation Begins With Questions
Q: How do you get attention from your father?
P: Exercise the “Persistent Gene.” Keep communicating and asking for the relationship.
Q: Should a parent discipline their grandchildren in front of parents?
P: A resounding ‘Yes’. Sometimes the parent needs correcting themselves. Carrying a wooden spoon helps keep children and grandchildren under control.
Q: How do I get my husband back, that I left, and he doesn’t want me back?
P: First, ask for forgiveness. Develop a relationship with God. Learn to be a good woman.
Q: How do I get my family to know that I am man of the house?
P: By asking that question shows there is a problem. Live right. Provide for your family. Be responsible. Spend time with your children. Follow the example of Jesus. Provide an atmosphere for your wife to be a proverb woman. You have to earn respect from your family.
Quote: “You can not follow a parked car.”
Q: How do I help my adult children follow after God, Even though I did not serve God when I was raising them, but now I am saved?
P: Apologize to your children for not being the best parent you could be. Walk in integrity.
Quote: “Preach often, talk if necessary.”
Q: How long should adult children live at home?
P: Raise your children to leave. Follow the ‘reach back’ principle: the ones who leave should come back and get the ones that are left behind.
If your adult children should leave and return home, first establish a plan before you agree to their return. Map out a plan to get them back on their feet. Make sure they understand that parents are not their source. They should learn to depend on God.
Two words: “Collect rent.” Children are adults in training.”
Q: How the table principle helps children?
P: It teaches them a work and team ethic. They learn to set a table and how to serve people. Respect is taught. Solutions are reached. Eating together teaches children manners and gratitude.
Q: How do you handle conflict in a marriage?
P: Forgetting things that are behind. Something is wrong if the same issues keep coming up. Operate in forgiveness. Handle challenges quickly in your marriage.
Single Parents Dating
Q: How do I date as a single parent? Divorced individuals.
P: Stay saved. Practice “Progressive Sanctification.” Over time you grow. Learn the discipline of fasting; crucify the flesh. Sex belongs in marriage (bottom line).
Money: Paying Tithes
Q: How do I pay my tithes and don’t have enough money to pay my bills?
P: Tithing is a matter of “faith” – trust God. Tithing is for you, not God.
Psalm 68:4-6: “God setteth the solitary in families.”
Rejoice! If you want a successful family, invite God’s presence in.
This is an excerpt of the “Conversation” held on Sunday at 11:00 a.m. To learn more about this ministry contact: Family Victory Fellowship Church.
Panel Members: Minister Dr. Vicky Love and Minister Dr. Glen Love, Minister Suzanne Marshall and Minister Derris Marshall, Minister Stephanie Thomas and Minister Donald Thomas.
Larry Jordan is Senior Pastor, and Councilwoman Sylvia Jordan is Executive Pastor of FVF, and have dedicated 20 years to building strong families.