Kids love playing dress-up. Girls love to wear pretty princess dresses and little boys and girls enjoy pretending to be doctors, teachers, or astronauts.
We encourage our kids to do this and expand their imaginations, but what would you do if your son wanted to wear a dress or a skirt?
Would you let him or would you try to change his mind
One German father not only encouraged it, he decided to join his young son and wear skirts and dresses as well.
Nils Pickert lives in a South German village and his five year old son lives with him.
His son prefers wearing dresses and skirts rather then anything else and was scared and nervous about wearing them out in public as to not be made fun of that Nils decided to join him.
Nils does not want to discourage his young son from doing or wearing what he wants to and after the young boy had been made fun of for his normally female attire and had trouble making friends, Nils did what not many would do, he wore them as well.
He told EMMA, a German magazine, “I didn’t want to talk my son into not wearing dresses and skirts. He didn’t make friends in doing that in Berlin already, and after a lot of contemplation, I had only one option left: To broaden my shoulders for my little buddy and dress in a skirt myself.”
Nils’ young son now does not feel ashamed when out in public wearing dresses and is proud of his father, saying this to friends who say things about his choice in clothes;
‘You only don’t dare to wear skirts and dresses because your dads don’t dare to either.'”
Nils also said this about what happened when he chose to wear a skirt out with his son;
“The day after I wore a skirt he fished out a dress from the depth of his wardrobe. At first only for the weekend. Later also for nursery-school.” Naturally, some kids still want to make fun of the little guy, but, miraculously, it doesn’t bother him anymore.”
The village they live in is a very strict, traditional one and many stare and make comments when they see them out wearing the skirts but Nils does not care.
Making his son feel comfortable with his own choices and letting him know that he has the right to do and wear what he pleases and feels comfortable wearing is all that matters to Nils, and that says a lot.
Many men and women would not allow their sons to wear skirts, dresses in public, let alone at home. Nils though will do whatever it takes to make his son feel good about himself, regardless of what society says.
“Yes, I am one of those fathers who are trying to raise his children with gender equality. I’m not one of those pseudo-intellectual daddies that rambles on about studying gender justice, and then, as soon as the child is born, falls back into the comfortable and clichéd gender roles: he realizing himself through work, she taking care of the rest.”
Seeing his son smile as he talks about how proud he is of his father is all Nils needs to know he is doing the right thing.
That right there speaks volumes about Nils and his love for his son. Many should follow suit.
Would you do the same for your child? Would you encourage or discourage your child from dressing the way they chose to dress if it meant having people look down on them, or went against the norm?
Let us know.
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