Of all the creatures on earth, only human beings can change their patterns. Man alone is the architect of his destiny. . .Human beings by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives. (William James)
Having broken the strong hold with the gun pointed to the head, one’s life suddenly changes. The survival instinct kicks in. And, once the survival phase kicks in, it wants to stay around. During the survival phase there is a tendency to just mark time and to drift along in whatever direction the stream seems to carry or the winds tend to blow. Life becomes the deteminant of direction. Hopes are forgottten. Dreams are aborted. Visions for the productive life are lost.
But, nay, let it not be so. William James’ introductory quote is right. Human beings are the only creatures on earth that can change their patterns. Man, and man alone, is the only one who can be the architect of his destiny. Man, and man alone, is the only one who can change the outer aspects of his life by changing the inner attitudes of his mind.
In the Bible we are told in Proverbs 29:18 that: Where there is no vision, the people perish. The objective is to reclaim the vision that was once present prior to the storm of domestic violence and abuse. At some point in time, there must be a conscious decision made to be a successful human being again; and to become the architect of life. For as Dr. Joyce Brothers once said: Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success. Focus the thoughts, again, on the vision for the future. for it is also true that: Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions. (Albert Einstein).
Seek the help needed. Then make the conscious decision to rebuild and restore life. Become the architect of life, again. Write down, in as much specifics as possible, the vision. Devise the specific action steps needed. Take the first step, no matter how small. (If one advances confidently in the directions of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.) (Henry David Thoreau.) Start by faith. In making the first small step, God will come to meet you in unexpected ways. Reward yourself with each accomplished step. Persevere until your vision is achieved. (Then start a new vision. A productive life is an ever increasing one.)
In other words, force yourself to get past the survival and drifting stage. Write the vision. Make it plain. Design a blueprint to follow. Devise specific and effective action steps. Take them. Move forward; even if only in small steps. Determine to be the architect of your life. Control your destiny, again. Forgive. Forget those things which lie behind. Establish your vision. Seek peace. Trust God. Walk in faith. He will provide. And, always remember: With God all things are possible. (Matthew 19:26.)