Anger develops when people realize they can’t get what they want. Not getting what one wants, when it is wanted feels like a lack of control, which generally results in a flash, or fit of anger. These infuriating outbursts start at an early age, and if allowed to continue, can become the cause of one’s demise.
Unfortunately, not getting everything we want is a part of life. Usually the part we don’t like. People must realize having control over everything that happens around them or to them is impossible. Even if a person can control certain aspects of his or her life, such as family schedules, children’s behavior, homework getting done, keeping the house clean and orderly, being neatly dressed, and maintaining good credit in one’s personal finances, as soon as one walks out the door this self-made security net can fall apart.
For example, you could be in a car accident on the way to work. This makes you late for work, which causes you to miss an important meeting. The boss gets angry, because this causes the company to lose a business account. Now you have fallen out of grace with the boss and your job may be in jeopardy. Plus, your car is in the shop and you don’t have any other transportation, so you have to pay for a rent-a-car and the hike in car insurance.
No matter how cautious one is in his affairs, nothing really happens as expected. This can be a cause for lament, but usually people just get angry. Sadly, this anger rarely stays inside. It is generally expressed outside to the misfortune of those who have to put up with the angry person. Some people yell, scream, and cry. Some people throw objects, speed like reckless madmen in their cars, or damage the property of others. Some people turn to those closest to them and physically abuse them to satisfy their uncontrolled rage.
What happens when one gets angry? Physically, the enraged person will suffer many unnoticed symptoms, such as:
- Muscles become tight as the body tenses
- Tense neck and head muscles can cause headaches and insomnia
- Breathing becomes rapid, affecting lung function
- The heart can race up to 180 beats per minute as one’s rage spikes
- Stomach acids will be released causing acid reflux
- Stress can cause one to binge on food, tobacco, or alcohol
- Normal blood pressure can rise up to 220 over 135 or even higher
- Blood circulation will be compromised
- Chest pains may result
- Cortisol, the stress hormone, is released into the body
- The metabolism can slow down
- The body can release chemicals that will clot the blood
- The extreme stress can cause an artery in the brain to burst
If anger becomes a person’s emotional release for most situations, these symptoms can lead to bigger problems after time. High blood pressure and stroke are two major possibilities. Gastric ulcers can be produced. Weight gain and diabetes will develop from the binging. Too much cortisol can cause bones to lose density, suppress thyroid functions, develop a blood sugar imbalance, cause chronic inflammation, and distort one’s ability to think straight. In other words, constant fits of anger can shorten one’s life.
It is clear to see that continuous bursts of anger will eventually lead to chronic illness. Of course, all this will happen simply because one cannot control his or her environment or the people in one’s life. In the Tampa Bay area, getting help for anger management is possible for people of all ages, and it is extremely important for everyone’s sake that those suffering from this condition do get help.
Yet, the cure is a simple one. People must understand that the only thing they can control in life is their personal self. Through self-observation, personal knowledge, and inner contemplation they can realize what sets them off and start getting their emotions under control. Stop looking outside their lives, criticizing and blaming others, and start focusing inside where the problem truly lies so they can make a real change for the better.
Obviously, it isn’t wise to be dying to get angry. Self-mastery is the ultimate transformation a person can make that will not only eliminate anger issues, but also put one in control of all of one’s emotions. Life’s obstacles and problems will become small challenges. Then inner peace can be realized, and happiness will ensue.