We all have heard the song RESPECT, but what does this infamous word really mean? Like most words in the English language, respect often becomes lost in translation. According to Webster’s Dictionary, respect means to feel or show honor or esteem for, or to hold in high regards. Showing your partner or friend simple respect can take any relationship to a whole new level.
You might ask, don’t people in relationships usually respect each other? Well, that would seem like something everyone should automatically do. In any relationship the other person is often taken for granted, this in the end ruins the issue of respect. Consider a typical day in your life. What is your conversation like with your partner, friend, relative, or even co-worker? Do you simply assume everything is in perfect working order? Or do you ask questions about them or ask how they are doing?
Believe it or not, a simple `Are you okay’, or `How was your day’, could mean the world to that individual. Yes we often get the response of good or fine, however, try to dig deeper. By showing the other person in your relationship that you want to take the time to talk to them and get their perspective, it shows them how much you care.
Of course respect involves a healthy form of communication. But without this important step, a relationship fails. Do not take one another for granted! Be considerate. Show them you care by doing something special for them. Listen to them when they speak. Send them a simple card for no reason. Give them flowers to show them you care. Take an hour out of your busy day and spend time with them. Take a chore off their hands without being asked. As you can see there are multiple ways to show another human being you respect them.
I have had a multitude of clients where respect has been lost. Unfortunately by the time most couples seek counseling, respect is not the only problem they have. Without the simple act of showing respect and communicating how you think or feel, a relationship ends up in dire straits. The good news is that any relationship can be repaired as long as all parties are willing to put in the hard work.
So here is my suggestion to any relationship: Do Not take the other person for granted!! Because if you do, they will know it and will ultimately resent you for it. Let your common sense prevail and give your partner the decency they deserve. Another key part is to seek professional help before things become too out of control.