“Love, so many things I got to tell you. But I ‘m afraid I don’t know how. Cuz there’s a possibility you’d look at me differently, love…” Musiq Soulchild took my breath with this song. I loved it for so many reasons. At the time it came out, it spoke to me, in the center of my being. It screamed everything that I wanted to say. It harmonized my feelings and sorrows into one cohesive melody that rocked me, soothed me, made me cry, re-evaluate, retreat, and rediscover my true purpose. Love is my reason for everything. What’s yours?
As I look back over my childhood, I realize that I was born not only to learn how to grasp, accept, honor and find peace with every experience, but to also give it back in better condition than I received it. It is not my job to take pain and redistribute it. It is not my job to hold all of the people who have done me wrong accountable through my personal efforts. It is my job to love myself enough to know that my experiences belong to me. They are mine to process, learn and teach other willing learners in the pursuit of being their HIGHEST selves.
It sounds good when people tell us “I love you”, but when the words are incongruent with the action, the words have no power. Powerless words are uttered form the mouths of those who don’t trust themselves. They are people who who speak beautiful words, but blanket you in actions of deceit, self-serving agendas, trauma-laden lies, narcissism masked as self-confidence, and dedication to “the struggle”/nation-building. Show me better than you can tell me, that’s my mantra these days. As a person who loves to talk, I understand the importance of aligning my words with my actions.
See, it wasn’t too long ago I was speaking to people abut my dreams, my plans, my passion and aspirations. They loved it, ate it up. The energy I exude when I am committed to my personal empowerment agenda is almost palpable, it makes you want more. However, in all that talking, there wasn’t a lot of DOING! I had to become subscribed to the “talk”, take the necessary steps and apply myself and ACTIVATE my gifts and talents to manifest my dreams into reality. This life is bigger than words. It’s bigger and more expansive than just you. Tapping in and understanding that you are but a part of this massive movement of energy and love is the key to your joy and peace. It’s not all about YOU.
I encourage you to “get congruent”. Make sure that your vision is greater than your circumstances, that your love is greater than your disappointments, hurts and losses, and that you are focused and fueled for the long haul, to manifest your destiny and live your BEST life. Love matters. If all that you do is centered in a space of love, you have succeeded. If it’s not, don’t do it. Walk away. Sit still until your intention shifts. Oftentimes, our actions are knee-jerk and are initiated from a space of hurt, and a false-sense of being threatened. Relax and find comfort in knowing that every challenge is an opportunity for you to grow and heal and change the canvas of your life by using the known cure for everything that ails you, love.
Remember, it feels good to say it. We feel powerful when we say it. We know the energy and meaning it holds for the person who receives it. But, the power can be dangerous if not rooted and grounded properly. Examine your intentions, your desires, and motives when telling people you love them. Do you want to hear it back? Are you testing them to see if they feel the same way? Are you measuring your self-worth according to your ability to be loved? Are so out of tune with yourself that your means of validation must be created outside of you? Are you looking for the response to fill the hole left by an absent parent, a husband, boyfriend, etc.? Are you waiting for someone to say it because you don’t trust that you are lovable? What are your reasons? Don’t allow your trauma to create your drama!
Be the love you want. Lead by example. That which you focus on expands. What are you focusing on? Your words and actions are prayers; they send out frequency and vibration to the universe, and it is returned to you in the same tone, level and vibration in which you sent it out. Check your “station”, you may be improperly tuned in. Your life is yours to sculpt and mold. If you are not yielding the results that you want in your life, talk less and DO more!! Love is an ACTION word. Ready. Set. Love!