The concept of “empty nest” syndrome seems to have been around for a long time. I know that for several couples this can be a hard time in life. When you’ve spent all your time, attention and money devoted to raising children for twenty to thirty years or more, life can seem more than a little empty once those kids are grown up enough to leave home.
There’s actually a feeling of emptiness, loneliness, and loss that’s known as empty nest syndrome. Many parents have a difficult time getting used to the children being gone, and sometimes it can take a while to adjust. Read more about the symptoms and effects of empty nest syndrome and ways to cope after sending your child to college.
Empty-nest syndrome is the name given to a psychological condition that can affect parents around the time that one or more of their children leave home. Feelings of sadness are normal at this time. It is also normal to spend time in the absent child’s bedroom to feel closer to him or her.
If you are experiencing empty nest syndrome, monitor your reactions and their duration. If you are feeling that your useful life has ended, or if you are crying excessively or are so sad that you don’t want to see friends or go to work, you should consider seeking professional help.
For us, we are actually looking forward to our lives when our children move on. May be more couples truly feel that way too but are changed by the fact that your children are not readily available. Available to do some of the fun things you used to do. That’s what I will miss.
My sons both have really good heads on their shoulders; my oldest is an amazing welder. I know that the day may come where he is offered a great financial opportunity and may need to move. I would be so excited for him but as a selfish parent I don’t feel I get to see him as often as I would like.
But on the other hand parents in this situation have to be proud of those who take what good they can from your experiences in life and relationship and do better. My step-daughters are awesome, planning on college, my youngest son as plans for the Marine Corp. Our marriage will be fine, my kids, your kids will be fine especially if they have those kinds of plans.
Your marriage will be given the opportunity to grow to another level of intimacy. We should be grateful that our children are doing better than us at their young age. Many believe that empty nest syndrome is more difficult for Moms than it is Dads, but both men and women experience the feeling of loss.
In most cases, Mom and Dad aren’t quite sure what they’re supposed to be doing in life now that they’re no longer raising kids. It’s perfectly natural to feel a bit sad or depressed during this period, but there are also things you can both do to help yourself deal with empty nest syndrome.
I know those times will present themselves but sitting back, laughing at and enjoying their amazing growth and accomplishments will bring peace of mind. First and foremost, parents should allow themselves a period of rest. When the kids first leave home for college, there is often a whirlwind of activity involved.
Getting them ready for those new life experiences was a very busy period, and you may be both physically and mentally exhausted. Once you’ve had time to rest, relax, and enjoy your quiet time is often when things can get the most depressing.
The house may start to seem too big and quiet, and you may start wondering what in the world you’re supposed to do with yourself now. As for us, we may just pack up the motorcycle and use the kids as a reason to ride out and visit. I hope they college or work close to a beach.