There is such a sense of entitlement in our world today. Beginning with parents, this perception seems to trickle down to the children in the family. This is quite sad, but people have brought this on themselves.
Yes, the fact remains that we are all extremely busy and the economy is not such that we can all do what we once did, but one thing we can all do is parent responsibly. We can make our children’s breakfasts, lunches and dinners. We can keep their clothing and their bodies clean. We can keep them housed (albeit not very easily sometimes). We can pray with them.
Children that are left to fend for themselves are bullies. They believe that they are owed because they are not given what they truly need in their home so they take from others to make themselves feel better. If replacement “stuff” is supposed to replace their parents, it is not really doing the job.
We wonder why there is such an influx of issues concerning children these days regarding their physical and mental health and welfare. If you have not noticed the increase in special needs is rising as we speak. Perhaps part of the issue has to do with children packing their own lunches and bringing a half roll of cookie dough and Coke with them as their lunch; is it any wonder children are hyper when they do not have the proper nutrition? Where are the parents while this is going on? Either sleeping or at work; work is definitely a necessity in many families, but proper planning can prevent an issue like this from occurring.
Having children is not the easiest feat for many of us and our responsibility does not end when that baby is conceived. In fact, the responsibility is a lifelong venture – even when your children are adults themselves, they may just need the advice (if nothing else) from mom and dad. When the decision is made to have a family, one must be prepared for the long haul.
Some ways to be a responsible parent is to establish a simple list of rules for yourself:
· Set rules and stick by those rules – both for yourself as well as for your children. Don’t vary in actions and results.
· Be respectful for your children are people not property.
· Determine a routine for both you and your children and try not to vary from it.
· Teach values – for self, for property, for life. Be honest, compassionate and courageous for your children.
· Provide support and listen to your children. You don’t have to be their best friend but learn to be there in all the blatant and the subtle ways.
Responsible parenting is not easy to come by, but it is the least that you owe them. Neither of you is owed anything that anyone else in this world is not owed. Accept your responsibility, determine how to do it best and then be there for your kids.