They say the third time is a charm; but it won’t be for any children living near Sami Ud Deen. Deen was first arrested in November, 2011 on charges that he molested an 8-year old acquaintance. He posted bond; and was arrested again when police found a small amount of child pornography on his computer.
He posted bond a second time but, as investigators dug further, they found hundreds more photos on the computer, showing over 16 months of abuses against young girls with whom he was acquainted, along with random photos of young girls in public venues. If statistics hold true, it is likely that this discovery is only the tip of the iceberg.
One report about Deen indicates that the young victims were his next door neighbors, ages 6 & 8. Now he is trying to convince a judge that he should be allowed to post bond a third time. Hopefully, that judge will recognize the threat that Deen poses to young children and will keep him where he belongs.
Statistically, children are overwhelmingly molested by people they know. “Stranger danger” is somewhat of a myth when it comes to molestation. Relatives, friends of the family, acquaintances, and others known to the children are the most likely perpetrators of these crimes. Parents can help to protect their children from these predators by sharing important information about the ways predators manipulate their victims.
Tell your children about the threats, lies, and manipulations that might be used by a molester to keep them quiet. The Deen case is textbook. He told these girls that they were “modeling” for him; and he told them that it was a secret that they couldn’t share with anyone. Your children should understand that any adult who wants them to keep a secret from you is not to be trusted; and any adult who uses coercion or threats to keep your child quiet is a liar.
Parents should also be very wary of any adult who lavishes attention on a child, especially if that person wants to spend time alone with the child. If your child seems reluctant to spend time with someone, it should also be treated as a red flag.
Single mothers are often targeted by molesters. They know that single moms live an often harried existence; and they will leverage that to gain access to the children. These men will seem like knights in shining armor, swooping in and helping with the children, offering to take the children on outings or care for them while mom takes a break. Their motives are not selfless, they’re sinister.
Is your child ever safe enough? Visit the Revved Up Kids Parent Resources page for more information about opening this difficult dialogue with your children.