Home-schoolers seem to have one thing in common – they LOVE their children. They love having children, they love being around their children, and they love having their children live at home. Of course, home-school children are not always perfectly behaved, and life is not always blissful. I’ve BEEN a home-school parent, so I KNOW that isn’t true! But in general, we’re all pretty sad when it comes time to let the kids go. But like baby birds that fly the nest, when it’s time, it’s just time.
I know home-schoolers are a little different. Still, I was surprised by this article in “The New York Times,” and what an unfriendly title! Students, Welcome to College; Parents, Go Home.
“As the latest wave of super-involved parents delivers its children to college, institutions are building into the day, normally one of high emotion, activities meant to punctuate and speed the separation. It is part of an increasingly complex process, in the age of Skype and twice-daily texts home, in which colleges are urging “Velcro parents” to back off so students can develop independence.” For example, “In order to separate doting parents from their freshman sons, Morehouse College in Atlanta has instituted a formal ‘Parting Ceremony’” says the article.
Super-involved, Velcro parents? That does not describe me. I worked hard to teach my children independence. I remember taking my own children to college. As a parent, saying goodbye was emotional. But mostly I just felt proud.
When you take your children to college, it’s just one step on the path to independence. Other steps follow. The first summer they live away from home. The first post-college apartment. The first holiday away from home. Saying goodbye at college is very important. It is just as important as the other goodbyes. Each step has its own emotions, ranging from tears to relief.
I did notice one thing, as I said my goodbyes at college. I had no regrets. I knew without a doubt they were academically prepared. I knew they were prepared for any assault on their worldview. I knew that I had shaped and molded their character and behaviors to the best of my ability. Their life was now up to them.
All parents have deep emotions when they are sending kids to college, not just home-schoolers. When you feel a tug on your heart, it’s not because you are a home-school parent – it’s because you are a parent. Your heart may hurt, but home-schooling is a healing balm. Home-schooling high school can minimize your regrets once your children are raised. With the ability to shape and mold character while educating, your children will have the best possible chance of success. Letting go can come with no regrets!