You and your friends have certainly talked about a guy or girl “giving you signals,” and it’s a well-known fact that both genders use an array of gestures, usually unknowingly, when they’re attracted to someone. And when it comes to the very unknown territory of courtship, it helps to understand these signals.
The Dating Examiner has put together a list of gestures and meanings to help you navigate through the craziness that we call courtship or dating. Of course, no matter what signals that you think a man or woman has sent your way, no will ALWAYS mean no! Moving on, check out the list below and leave your thoughts in the comment section.
Slightly parted lips
If a person likes you, his or her lips automatically open the moment your eyes meet. Catching this cue can be a helpful determiner when deciding to start a conversation.
When we see a person that we consider attractive, we begin raising and lowering our eyebrows. It’s a quick gesture that lasts less than a second, but for those that are observant, it’s a cue that he or she is attracted to you and you have that person’s attention.
Standing at attention
You’ve heard about men “puffing out their chest,” kind of like a peacock strutting their feathers, well men are the same. The Dating Examiner is not talking about muscle heads flexing for attention; this is different. If a man is standing straight with his shoulders squared, he’s trying to show himself off to you. If he is leaning forward to hear what you have to say, this is a slam-dunk indicator that he’s into you.
When a man begins adjusting his tie, he really hopes that you will notice him. When a man is playing with the buttons on his shirt or jacket he’s probably nervous. Using these gestures he’s also subconsciously demonstrating his desire to get undressed for you. The next stage is when he takes his jacket off, or if he unfastens his watch, some gesture of removing an item. If he has used these gestures, it means he’s already thinking “your place or mine?”
Playing with the hair
Showing a subconscious gesture of sympathy, a woman will sweep her hair off of her face. If she starts to twirl her hair, forget it, she’s bored and you have less than zero chance with her.
A man is openly trying to show that he’s examining the woman’s body, by casting some looks at its most beautiful parts. Of course, if the guy does a full body inspection from jump-street then he’s looking for booty.
Playing around with cylindrical objects
A man or woman is attracted to you; they will definitely play with a glass or even a fork. Cylindrical objects remind men of woman’s breasts, and women of a man’s, well um… cylindrical object.
The leading hand
It is a good sign if a man is holding you by the elbow or by the shoulder. In the first place, it is a good way to lead you through the crowd. Secondly, this way he can be sure that you don’t get lost. Thirdly, this will frighten away other men: after all, you already have one by your side.
He’s offering you his sweater or his coat.
Men offer their jackets or sweaters to women because it’s a defensive, sexual and proprietarily gesture. It is a man’s way of showing that he can protect you and that he has concern for your well-being. Furthermore, he’s saying “What is mine, is also yours.” At first the jacket smells of him, and then it smells of you.
The Dating Examiner hopes that you find these tips on body language to be helpful. If you have questions about dating, email DivineDate@gmail.com.
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