Are you worried that your spouse is drinking too much coffee? Or do you have no sympathy for your overweight friend because she eats that candy bar with her lunch every day? Now look inward at yourself.
Maybe it’s actually you who does things for no good reason at all and other people are questioning ‘your’ choices.
Sometimes we do irrational things that we just can’t explain. The choices come from somewhere deep inside of us with no rhyme or reason as to why we chose ‘this or that.’ While some are acceptable choices, others are not.
Not only do our subconscious choices help us physically (craving chocolate), but they also are used as a defense for our inner emotional well-being. For example, your subconscious mind can buffer your inner needs by choosing friends who can feed into your low (or high) self-esteem. Is your circle of friends helping you or hurting you?
Examples of subconscious choices:
- Have you ever wondered why you chose your circle of friends?
- What is your drug of choice (including alcohol, caffeine or tobacco)?
- Do you have a certain way to organize that’s different from everyone else?
These are just a few ideas out of endless possibilities that emulate how our trivial choices can affect our lives. Other choices appear to be influenced by a broader, sociological factor.
Real men don’t eat ‘rabbit food?’
It is known that men eat lower amounts of fruits and vegetables than women do which appears to be a gender choice, but why is that? Peer pressure was ruled out, so could it be the inner feeling of masculinity that encourages a ‘meat and potatoes’ choice? Could it be the male inner self may need nurturing to maintain an appearance of being a manly-man?
Is there a way to make salads more ‘manly?’ No, but we can make men aware of their inner insecurities that influence them to choose the meat and potatoes over salads.
Usually, individuals are too busy to stop and think about those little choices. But those little preferences are valuable in learning what your attributes/weaknesses are.
Understanding the endless possibilities as to why we ‘choose things’ without any apparent rationale, allows us to be aware of our own behaviors. This awareness can help direct us to understand our innermost needs to address any possible mental health weaknesses or strengthen our personal growth.
As for the spouse who drinks too much coffee, he could subconsciously need that java-jolt stimulation to stave off a looming fatigue. Or your friend who is obese, she could be on the verge of possible blood sugar issues without realizing it.
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Psychology explains why guys don’t eat vegetables