Are you going to be a guest at a wedding this summer? Are you not quite sure what to wear, what to bring, who not to bring? If you are asking yourself these questions, it’s a good thing! Many people don’t care about their actions and how it impacts a couple planning their wedding. As you might know, weddings are not a cheap affair. Recently the Knot.com reported that the average 2012 wedding costs $27,000! Often times the cost per person to attend a wedding will reach $180 or more!
The list below is to help you be the best guest possible at cousin Joey’s wedding or Jane, your co-workers wedding this summer.
1. Most important thing you can do as a guest is R.S.V.P. in a timely manner. Place that invite on the refrigerator so you don’t forget to R.S.V.P. by the date the couple has requested.
2. Unless someone says it’s okay to take pictures at the wedding, assume that the couple has hired a professional photographer, and keep your photographing to a minimum. Why is it not okay to play the role of the photographer at a wedding? Have you looked at a professional photo from someone’s wedding and all you can see are a bunch of people with their cameras taking pictures of the the bride and groom? The couple would like to see their friends and family having fun, not playing “photographer” at the wedding!
3. You would think that this one is a given, but you’d be very surprised at how many people do not know how important it is to show up on time! It is incredibly rude to show up late to a wedding. If you for some reason must show up late, skip the ceremony, you should be embarrassed to walk in late!
4. It’s a tough economy, so leniency should be given in the rule of gifting. Usually it is said that if you are invited, you should send a gift, even if you cannot attend. Some people just cannot afford to do this right now, so instead of a gift make sure you send a congratulatory card.
5. Whose names are on the invite you received? If the invite has your name but does not include the words bring a guest or a plus one, then do not invite someone as your date! It is rude to bring a date if you were not asked to do so. Again, remember that the couple is paying a significant amount of money for this event, and each person counts towards the budget.
6. Do not get too drunk and make a fool of yourself, because more often than not, there will be a videographer near by.
7. Are your kids on the invitation? If not, it is because they’re not invited! If you can help yourself don’t ask the couple if your kids are invited, because if the couple wanted your kids to be there they would be included on the invite. It’s costly, often inappropriate, and can be a liability to have children under 13 at certain weddings. I’ve seen a young child take down a DJ’s speaker because the parent was off partying with everyone else and thought the DJ was also the babysitter!
8. Do not purchase a gift not on the registry. “The number one complaint I hear from clients about wedding gifts is that their friend purchased something that they will never use or display,” says Simon Blanco (MME & Events). If you bought a shabby chic tea set not on the couples registry, don’t be mad when your tea set you purchased is not displayed in their china cabinet.
9. Do not wear white. Do not wear something that is too revealing. Wear an outfit that fits the style of the invitation or the feel of the couples wedding website.
10. Do not leave before the wedding cake has been cut or dessert has been served.
Most important, make sure you are a fun and kind guest. Celebrate the joy of two people uniting, even if weddings are not your thing; support the couple that invited you. Remember to bring cash to tip your bartender! If the wedding is outside, consider wearing comfortable shoes because you might be walking in grass, gravel, or worse, sand.
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