When setting goals, we talked about the three steps and we playfully talked about them as the WaRM method.
We talked about how you should make your goals in the following format:
By doing them in this format, we feel that the goals become part of the journey and not some ideal off in the distance that are unachievable.
Perhaps, but where to start? Do you just pick up a pen and write them down?
In the Bolf Way © we are taught to “write them down”. Our mentor, Steve, explained it like this: “If you are sitting in a cabin with almost no firewood and you are getting cold, what are you going to do? Sit there and freeze? I hope not. You are going to set a goal…I need to survive; it will be measureable – I need so much wood to get the fire going. Those are realistic expectations. “
So out you go to chop the wood.
As you are chopping the wood, you begin to heat up. Pretty soon, you are down to pants and undergarments as you work up a good sweat.
Sure you have wood for later, but are you cold any longer?
So the wood becomes a “saving plan” for later. The activity is where you derive the benefit from. The effort is the key. The destination is a guide.
Life is not so different. You do not just wake up one morning and write down your goals.
You dream about the destination. It is the destination that motivates. You think about it. You desire it. You try to figure out how to get there.
The destination may be elusive and days, weeks, months and years may pass and you do not see it getting any closer.
Wham you realize that you need a plan. Dreams and thoughts begin to transform into a plan when you write it down.
So it is perfectly acceptable, normal, fun and good to dream, to desire and to think. But if you want to increase your ability to succeed you need to set goals. That requires a plan. Follow the KISS principle: “Keep it simple sunshine”
Also remember to celebrate your victories along the way. The Bolf Way © spoke about dividing funds into:
• Saving (often part of the goals)
• Mad money – to allow for rewards along the way
In Stephen R. Covey seminal work “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” the author spoke of many habits and characteristics. Good thoughts, good system and being a driven young executive at the time, many of the habits were already part of our being. What struck me most when I first read this book over 20 years ago was “Habit 7” Sharpen the Saw. This habit was not about maximizing, strategizing or optimizing. It was about renewal, rest, relaxation, meditation, worship, the soul and well-being. Oh, Covey did not necessarily use all those words. You do not have to use all those words. But Bolf and Covey got it.
It is hard work to become successful.
It is hard work to stay successful.
It need not be too hard. Remember the cold individual in our example above. Soon after becoming a wood chopper he got warm. Once you are warm it is much easier keeping so. Step 7 in Covey’s system allows for the thinking, contemplation and meditation that helps with step 1 (writing) of the WaRM system.
But remember as you journey through life it not be either the Bolf or Covey methods (who both died earlier this summer within a couple of weeks of each other) or the WaRM system. It can be the Paul Anka system: “My Way” and the same way that Frank Sinatra made that song his, you can adopt a system and make it yours.
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